How To Find Common Ground With Others When Chatting?

A person's mental state, spiritual pursuit, life hobby and so on are all more or less manifested in their expressions, dress, conversation and manner.

As long as you are good at observing, you will find your common ground.

On the train, a Chinese teacher saw a young man sitting on the opposite seat reading a world famous book. So he volunteered to talk to him: "what is your major?" the other replied, "I am learning Chinese."

"Oh, we are studying the same profession, and I am also learning Chinese. What kind of edition did you learn at school?"

Because the Chinese teacher observed carefully and found common ground, he opened the way of conversation.

This is the common sense of learning Chinese after seeing each other.

Of course, it is possible to break the stillness of the atmosphere by looking at the topic, and combining with our own hobbies and interests.

Otherwise, even if we find common ground, we will have nothing to say, or one or two sentences will be "stuck".

2. try to find common ground with words.

Strangers to meet, in order to break the silence of the situation, opening speech is the most important.

Some people start with the opening ceremony. Some people start with actions, while helping others to do something in urgent need of help.

Mrs Lau went to the hospital to sit in the waiting hall. A big sister sitting next to her was very talkative. The elder sister asked her, "what kind of illness do you come to? Your accent is not like the locals. Where is your hometown?" when she learned that Ms. Liu was a Xiamen native in Fujian, she said with great joy, "Xiamen is very beautiful. I've been there many times before."

Ms. Liu asked, "then what kind of unit do you work in?" so they talked kindly, and when they went to see them, they were already familiar friends, and invited each other to be guests when they parted.

This kind of harmonious effect appears to be accidental, and in fact, it has its own reasons.

Only through "fire reconnaissance" and finding common ground can communication be free.

When you go to a friend's house and meet strangers, you will be familiar with the two parties. They will immediately introduce you to the two sides, explaining the relationship between the two sides, their identity, work units, and even personality traits, hobbies and so on.

From the introduction, a careful person can find out what the other person has in common with himself.

The head of a county Price Bureau and a "county middle school" teacher met at a friend's home. The master introduced the strangers to each other. They found that they were all the same points of their master's classmates. They immediately talked to each other about the breakthrough of "classmate", and got to know each other and understand each other, so that they became intimate.

It is important to understand and understand each other carefully when listening to the introductions. After finding common ground, they will expand in conversation and constantly discover new topics of common concern.

4. try to figure out the common ground.

In order to find out the similarities between strangers and themselves, we can pay attention to the analysis and conjecture when talking to others who need to communicate with others. We can also try to figure out the similarities between them when we talk with ourselves.

On the bus, Xiao Zhang accidentally stepped on the foot of an old man's side. She apologized and said, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry." the old gentleman listened to her accent and said with a smile, "you are from Harbin!" Xiao Zhang nodded in surprise, and the old gentleman said, "I worked there for three years. That was ten years ago. Now Harbin is changing very much."

Later, I learned that the old gentleman was Xiao Zhang's old professor at school, and Xiao Zhang had visited the old gentleman many times, and it was very beneficial.

It can be seen that through careful analysis of each other's conversation, we can find out the common points between the two sides, and turn strangers into acquaintances, and then develop into friends.

Finding common ground is not too difficult. This is only the initial stage of conversation.

With the deepening of conversation, there will be more and more similarities.

In order to make conversation more beneficial to each other, we must dig deeper into the common ground step by step to get what we want.

There are many ways to find common ground, such as the common living environment, common tasks, common directions, common habits and so on.

It is easy to break the situation without finding out what a stranger can say.

The following words:

As the saying goes, it is impossible for us to make sense.

Therefore, in a sense, emotion is the first important way to enter the other's inner world and produce affinity.

Only by realizing spiritual communication and emotional communication can the other side be convinced.

In the real life of people, speech must be filled with true feelings. Only in this way can the charm and appeal of language come into being and achieve satisfactory results.

Similarly, if we want to speak clearly and make things beautiful, we must be reasonable.

Otherwise, it will get twice the result with half the effort and run counter to it.